What is Family Constellation Therapy?

Family Constellation Therapy is a practice guided by the life experience of Bert Hellinger. Its aim is to elucidate traumas and entanglements that we carry from this life or from our ancestors.
According to Hellinger, "family constellation work shows, in its own special way, how we relate to life. Our romantic relationships, our relationship with work and our career, our position regarding our health, and especially our prosperity and money."

Our first relationship with the world begins with our parents and family, and we unconsciously try to transmit these relationships to all aspects of our lives. The same happened with our parents and grandparents. Thus, we reproduce these feelings from generation to generation, building a web of bonds and loyalty. Through the Family Constellation technique, we can look at and reorganize these feelings, transcending the family field and thus experiencing new possibilities beyond the limits of family information.

The central concept of this technique is that each family is organized as a system, and each system has a natural order to be established by the order of arrival. Bert Hellinger introduced this concept as the Orders of Love. Even ignoring these orders, we will be connected and functioning through them. And when we corrupt these orders, we bring disorder, trauma, and entanglements.

The first principle is Belonging . We all have the right to belong to a group, society, and especially our family. In this case, this principle shows us that whenever a member of the family group is excluded, another member will step in, experiencing the fate of the one who left.

The second order is Hierarchy . For a long time, this order was experienced where the younger ones protected the older ones, even for the sake of the group's continued existence. However, we realize today that this archaic consciousness can unconsciously repeat itself, as when a young person, noticing their parents or a family member are sad, puts themselves at the service of the other's happiness, demanding all their life energy for this process, but thus straying from their own destiny. We call this event "blind love," a childish love that hinders the systemic family movement of expansion.

Compensation is the third order, where we have to deal with the giving and receiving of life. This movement is the basis of any relationship, whether it be romantic, financial, or related to health. Knowing how to receive and give in a continuous flow is the greatest human challenge. If we receive too much, we become full, and the weight of not being able to transmit paralyzes us; and if we give too much, we deplete our reserves, leaving us without energy for life.